We’re all individuals, so why is it assumed we all find happiness in the same things? It’s strange that it’s a novel concept to question the status quo. If we’re individuals, shouldn’t it be natural that we also have unique preferences? I think dissatisfaction with life is often a symptom of monotonous societal pressures. We feel it everywhere; from our parents; from our peers; from our relationships, and so on. The result of this limited thinking is often anxiety, unhappiness, fear, and feeling like a failure.
When it feels like too much, it’s time to back up and reassess what you really want, regardless of what you’ve be conditioned to think you want. Here are a few common hindrances to avoid that may limit your life experiences and your happiness.
Heavy Financial Overhead
In short, avoid heavy expenses. The lighter you can keep your overhead, the lower stress and more disposable income you will have. Don’t buy stuff you don’t need or can’t afford. We as a society have a bad habit of overspending, getting in debt, and taking on financial burdens that ultimately stress us out. As Dave Ramsey once said, “We buy things we don’t need with money we don’t have to impress people we don’t like.” Instead, you’re better off living below your means and building a nest egg for future experiences.
Vacation homes are not only a financial burden, but why would you want to go to the same place over and over and over again? Instead use that mortgage payment or expense to book vacations to cool new destinations. This is the best way to experience more for your money.
“Settling Down” Too Soon
Thankfully, people are waiting longer than ever to get married and have children these days and that’s a really great advantage for society. When you wait and put significant thought into what marriage and children mean, you can make more informed, responsible decisions. We’re often preconditioned into these roles even though they may not be right for some people. Don’t feel pressured into getting married or having children too soon or at all. Live your life a bit and figure out what you really want first. Some people are not meant to be parents or get married, and that’s perfectly fine.
Going To The Same Places Every Weekend
We often get in such a routine, it can be easy to have repetitive experiences every weekend. Instead of going to that same bar, with the same faces, try something new. Take a road trip, hike a local mountain, try a new fitness class, whatever you do, break out of your routine.
Career Student Status
School is an easy routine to get stuck in. It’s comfortable, by-the-book, and habitual. But by going after yet another degree, you can easily avoid facing the real world and really challenging yourself. Not to mention piling up student debt. Unless your career requires a certain degree, such as being a doctor, avoid collecting diplomas. Go live your life and get real world, real work experience. It will serve you better in the long run.
Drinking Too Much
Getting caught up in a cycle of late nights and hangovers every weekend will just deter you from exploring and enjoying the days you have off. Who wants to waste away their Saturdays and Sundays in bed nursing a hangover? Instead you could get up early, go for a run, work on a business idea, read, try a new sport. When you’re healthy and not hungover, the possibilities are endless.
Watching Too Much TV
Netflix and chill is a major time suck. While enjoying your favorite TV show each week or having the occasional marathon is not a problem, regularly binging for hours on end and not leaving your couch, is. Imagine what you could be exploring with all those hours?
Fear of The Unknown
Fear categorically stops most people from reaching their potential. Fear of failure, fear of success, fear of getting hurt, fear of everything. You have to give up on being scared of the unknown. Nothing in life is guaranteed and that is a reality that we all must face and embrace. It’s an illusion to believe you can control everything that happens in your life. Sure, we can all plan and hopefully steer our lives in the right direction, but there are some things that are simply out of your control and accepting that is truly the key to inner peace and happiness.