Simmer Down Now: 5 Things To Stop Stressing About

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Hi there. Are you stressed out all the time? Worried about life and all its uncontrollable variables? Hey, you’re not alone, but you also might be causing yourself undue stress over things that are out of your control or simply not that relevant in the grand scheme of life.  We humans have a tendency to be a little too serious and dramatic, so we’re here to help you relax a little…and also help you eat that slice of pizza with no guilt once in a while, ya know?pizza


Sure, summer is here, but counting every single calorie you eat is simply not living. We’re all about eating healthy and living a balanced life, but please understand that strict diets rarely work long term. Most people end up gaining the weight back eventually. Instead, workout, stay active, opt for healthier foods and reduce your portions. That’s really the best way to stay both fit AND happy. Sure, reducing your calories down to almost nothing may get you six pack abs faster, but do you really want to be miserable and starving all the time? No, we didn’t think so. Eat the pizza.

Things You Can’t Control

Life is unpredictable. At any moment things can go awry and your life can completely change. Accidents, job loss, breakups, divorce, financial failure, and yes, death. There are so many variables you can’t control, so make a list of what you can control and what you can’t. Keep that list in your pocket and when life throws you a curve ball, pull out that list, and gently remind yourself that there are some things you can’t control in life, and do your best to manage and release your angst. Of course, this is easier said than done, but much suffering in life is caused by holding on to and trying to control things we can’t.


Some people will love you, some won’t, so what? So many of us ruminate on why someone didn’t like us. We become self conscious and try to be someone we’re not to please others. Stop. It’s the wrong path to try to please everyone. If you’ve done your best to be a good person and someone still doesn’t accept you, let it go. There are nearly 8 billion people on this planet. Stop worrying about the few who don’t like you. In the grand scheme of life and sheer mathematics, they’re irrelevant.


Relationships come and go and they all end eventually -whether by breakup or death. This might sound a little cynical, but it’s reality. Too many of us try to force relationships and get stressed out trying to find “the one.” Relax. Trust that people arrive and depart exactly as they should. If you were meant to be together, you’d be together. Breakups hurt, to be sure, but to place your self-esteem and worth in the outcome of your dating life is discounting all the other qualities you have and fun experiences to be had. We live in a big, exciting world full of opportunities. There’s art, travel, work, laughter, nature, family, friends, and so many other purposeful things to enjoy in life. Stop ruminating over your romantic relationships and take a moment to look around and enjoy all the other incredible things in life.

Being “Cool”, “Fitting In”

How do you even define “cool” anyway? There is no such thing. It’s all relative. As the saying goes, “Be yourself. Everyone else is taken.” One person’s “cool” may be another person’s “uncool.” Who cares. Why are we so worried about some undefined status that doesn’t even exist? You know what’s “cool” -being comfortable and confident in exactly who you are. Also, the most interesting, successful people in the world have often been outliers, so use your individuality to your advantage and do you, boo.

Desiree Rabuse is a social entrepreneur and Founder & Editor-in-Chief of StyleFox® Media. She’s been in the entertainment/media business for over a decade, working both in front of and behind the camera. She loves traveling, martial arts, philosophy, coffee, and helping people lead healthy, happy, more efficient lives.


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